You know what you DON'T want to pass down to your kids. Now let's teach them (and you!) what healthy actually looks like.
I help cycle-breaker millennial moms raise emotionally healthy and confident kids while learning nervous system regulation, emotional maturity, self-trust, and healthy relationship skills right alongside them.
I see you trying so damn hard to give your kids something better than what you grew up with:
Emotional safety
Feeling truly seen by you
The freedom to have their own opinions, feelings, and boundaries
The confidence to trust themselves.
The ability to participate in healthy relationships (and avoid unhealthy/toxic ones)
But now you're realizing that avoiding what wasn't healthy from your own childhood…doesn't necessarily help you teach or model for your kids the healthy versions. Because I know no one taught you or modeled it for you. And especially if you and/or your kiddos are neurodivergent or deeply feeling humans.
(Oh, and then there's the deeper societal and patriarchal toxicity we're trying to untangle, too, and you’re realizing this whole cycle-breaking thing is bigger than you thought…)
That's ok, babe. I’ve got you. 💛
I'm Kim, a cycle-breaking, ADHD, elder millennial mama raising 2 neurodivergent tween boys myself. 👋
And I’ll help you take everyday parenting moments (especially the tough ones!) and turn them into connecting, cycle-breaking parenting moments that help you all build better emotional health, self-trust, and increasing emotional maturity.
The truth is, you can read ALL the things about parenting differently and still struggle to actually DO them when everyone’s overstimulated, cranky, and all up in their feels.
Look, I know this likely isn’t your first rodeo in the parenting advice world.
You've already read the books.
You’ve scoured Google trying to figure out how to just stop getting so overwhelmed and be more patient with your kids.
You've tried the gentle parenting scripts.
You’ve taken a bazillion and a half deep breaths to ride out your kids’ meltdowns.
You've probably also spent years in therapy understanding your own childhood, your triggers, and all the things you're determined to do differently now that you’re the parent.
And I’ll bet you can even self-regulate pretty well now…whennnnn you’re by yourself or alone in your therapist’s office.
But then real life happens…
Everyone’s tired. And hungry.
You’ve been holding it together ALL DAY.
(And don’t even get me started on the perimenopause hormone rollercoaster fun we’re going through at this age. 😂)
So one little thing from your kids pushes you over the edge.
And out of your mouth comes something you’ve been working so hard not to say to your kids.
You see the hurt in their face and think…
Fuck.
Why can’t I get this right?!
So on top of holding everything together for everyone while going through “cougar puberty”, you’re living in a constant state of overwhelm and fear with thoughts like:
I promise I’m trying….but what if I’m still traumatizing my kids? Am I actually even breaking the cycle, or am I just doing a slightly less shitty version of what my parents did?
I see you, girl.
But here's the thing: You're already doing a whole lot of things differently already. You're making room for your kids to have their own feelings, opinions, and voices. (And sometimes that's a LOT harder to receive than it sounds, right?! 😂)
Because thennnnn there's the OTHER part of parenting this way that doesn't always get talked about...
It’s not just about how YOU respond to your kids' big feelings. It's also about helping THEM learn how to navigate those feelings and everything else life throws at them.
And as your kids grow, those situations can get a whole lot more complicated.
Because now they’re not just having a meltdown about turning off a screen or about the banana being peeled the wrong way (that’s serious business to a toddler, amiright?! 😂)….
Now, you’ve built all this beautiful emotional safety…
And their big feels are suddenly around things like:
friendship breakups
group chats
rejection
bullying
not feeling smart enough or good enough
body image issues
shame
self-criticism
crushes
friendships that are sounding notttt exactly healthy for them
And all of a sudden you’re like…shittttttt. (Because it’s starting to hit really close to home with things you’re still struggling with yourself.)
Suddenly the gentle parenting strategies that helped when they were little feel like they just get you attitude, shutdown, or the side eye. 😒
Because helping your kids feel safe having big feelings is one thing. Helping them know what to DO with those feelings in an increasingly mature way (and navigate all the complicated shit that comes with growing up) is a whole other ballgame.
Emotional safety’s the foundation. But it's not the whole damn building.
Listen, I am ALL FOR creating the kind of emotional safety for our kids that so many of us didn't have growing up.
(You may not even feel like you have this in your adult relationships now.)
Where they can have big feelings, disagree with us, make mistakes, and know that they're still loved and accepted for exactly who they are.
That's a BIG fucking deal. Especially when so many of us grew up learning the exact opposite.
But here's where I believe cycle-breaking parenting needs to go FURTHER.
Because we're not just raising kids who feel safe expressing their emotions.
We're raising future ADULTS who need to know how to actually navigate those emotions, take responsibility for themselves, trust their own voices, and recognize and build healthy relationships.
I want our kids to understand that:
They can have big, uncomfortable emotions AND learn healthy ways to experience, express, and process them.
They can disagree with someone without being disrespectful (and someone disagreeing with them doesn't automatically mean they're being disrespected).
They can love and care deeply about someone without being responsible for managing that person's emotions.
They can trust themselves, have their own opinions, and set boundaries, even when someone else doesn't like them.
They can take genuine accountability when they hurt someone, rather than just saying "sorry" and moving on.
And they can recognize when a relationship isn't healthy, instead of believing they have to make themselves smaller, ignore their instincts, or abandon who they are to keep someone else happy.
THAT'S the kind of emotional intelligence, emotional maturity, self-trust, and healthy relationship skills I want us to be intentionally building in our kids.
And these aren't things that magically appear when our kids turn 18. They're skills we can start helping them learn and practice NOW, in age-appropriate ways, as they grow.
But here's the kicker...
A whole lot of us are still learning these exact same skills OURSELVES.
Which is why I don't believe we should be separating your personal growth from your parenting.
We can work on both. Together.
Because cycle-breaking isn't just about changing the unhealthy patterns that get passed down.
It's about intentionally building healthier ones to pass forward.
And the goal isn't perfection. It's emotional health.
The really cool part? We don't have to wait for some big, perfectly planned teaching moment to start building those skills. We can use the everyday moments that are already happening in our lives.
I’m a self-trust & business coach, as well as a single mama to 2 tween boys, a domestic violence survivor, and I’m passionate about helping other women who refuse to stay stuck while navigating the many both/ands in our lives.
My first business was a VA turned podcast production agency that I scaled up to a team of 11, so I’ve got a soft spot (and a specialty!) for helping women running other agency model or done-for-you service businesses.
But I adore helping women from all walks of life in their pursuit of confidence, freedom, joy, presence, and financial independence.
Whether you’re navigating motherhood and business, rebuilding after divorce, or simply trying to feel like yourself again since having kids, you don’t have to keep doing it all on your own.
I offer coaching that’s grounded in real life, rooted in empathy, shaped by lived experience, and built to support the kind of transformation that actually lasts.
This isn’t about doing more.
It’s about doing what matters—and doing it in a way that’s actually sustainable, soul-aligned, and deeply yours. xx
Let's talk...
You don’t need to have it all figured out before reaching out. You don't have to even feel ready to consider hiring a coach to be in your corner right now. (I promise you that you're not wasting anyone's time, and you deserve to take up space and have space held for you no matter where you are in your journey!)
You just need to know that whatever's going on in your life and business has got you feeling stuck—and you’re ready to get another set of eyes and ears on your situation to help you live the life you actually want to live.
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